10 Things GIRLS Never Learned In Sex Ed

What was your experience of sex education? Was it all anatomy and abstinence? Well girls, you’ve come to the right place, today we’re going to be uncovering 10 Things You Never Learned in Sex Ed 10

THE VAGINA Pretty much everything about the vagina is routinely glossed over in sex ed Even us girls get the details wrong about our own private parts Having said that, you’re probably familiar with this diagram [INSERT FALLOPIAN TUBE DIAGRAM] and that’s because sexual reproduction is typically at the top of the syllabus But what about a more in depth discussion of our bits? Take for example the clitoris, that’s it right? [INSERT CLITORIS GRAPHIC] Wrong THIS is the clitoris

[INSERT CLITORIS GRAPHIC BELOW] Yeah, that’s it, the wishbone-shaped structure with two legs, which extends into the vagina, connecting to the G Spot (More on that magical phenomenon later) Oh and did you know that lady boners exist? The clitoral structure is in fact largely composed of erectile tissue, which swells up when it’s aroused And while we’re on the topic of the va-jay-jay, don’t be embarrassed if yours looks different to others you might have seen Particularly if they were in porn, as many porn stars undergo ‘designer vagina’ surgery to reduce the size of their labia

Just remember, different sizes and shapes of labia are just as normal as different sizes and shapes of penises Sources: The Guardian, The Metro, Huffington Post 9 THE HYMEN A common misconception about the hymen is that it covers up a lady's vagina and breaks when she has sex for the first time But this, my friends, is completely wrong The hymen is actually a thin stretchy bit around the vagina

During sexual intercourse the hymen might stretch, causing it to tear slightly, but despite popular belief it does not fully break In fact, sexually active girls can have intact hymens, and hymens also have the ability to heal At this point you might be wondering about the bleeding that can sometimes occur after your first time Well, this is not hymen tissue breaking, but vaginal tissue bleeding typically as a result of a lack of lubrication – and girls, the more lubrication the better Don’t be afraid to use it to make things smoother

Sources: Huffington Post, Psychology Today, Medic Daily 8 WOMEN CAN HAVE WET DREAMS You’ve probably heard of boys having wet dreams, but did you know that girls can also experience them? This happens during the dreaming stage of sleep known as REM (Rapid Eye Movement), when impulses periodically engorge a genital region with blood The increase in blood flow can peak and release, which results in a penis erection for males and vaginal secretions in females Some women even wake up from deep sleep to find themselves sexually stimulated or just having experienced a sleep-gasm A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that 85% of women had experienced nocturnal orgasms by the age of 21, and some before they had turned 13

The study also found that women who do have these orgasms during sleep are susceptible to having them several times a year Sources: Medical Daily, Journal of Sex Research 7 ONLY 25% OF WOMEN ORGASM WITH THE VAGINA A typical sex-ed class would not discuss sex for pleasure So, for some teens, it may seem strange that women only orgasm from penetration alone just a quarter of the time So, what other ways are there? Well, according to a study published in the journal NeuroQuantology, there are four distinct types of female orgasm (clitoral, vaginal, blended, and multiple orgasms)

Lucky us The most common is clitoral, when you orgasm simply through the stimulation of the clitoris without any vaginal penetration Next up is vaginal, which occurs with little or no clitoral stimulation and only 25% of us can appreciate it The others are even more difficult to come by Blended is when you orgasm from a mixture of clitoral, vaginal, and cervical stimulation

(Yes, cervical stimulation is a thing) Finally, multiple is what all women strive to accomplish Basically it’s when a woman slightly relaxes after one orgasm—but not completely—and is then aroused again, resulting in "multiple experiences of orgasmic pleasure in rapid succession" Sources: ABC News, Psychology Today, Journal of Sexual Medicine 6 PERIOD SEX COULD LAND YOU PREGNANT To be honest, it does make sense that sex during a woman’s period would carry no risk of impregnation, seeing as menstruation is the body releasing an unused egg

But, this is actually not completely true The main problem behind this logic is that very few women have perfectly regular menstruation and ovulation cycles So for example, women who have longer periods could see them overlap with their ovulation, which essentially means that a woman can be fertile even if she’s menstruating Another problem is that it is possible for sperm to survive inside the reproductive tract for up to seven days So any sperm that were released during period sex could fertilize an egg days later

Equally important to know is that you can also get pregnant if you have never had a period before, or during your first period, or after the first time you have sex Sources: NHS Online, Healthline 5 BIRTH CONTROL Following their sex ed classes, most teens will be left thinking that popping a pill a day is a magical formula for birth control, but it’s not that easy In reality, the success rate of the pill is about 91% – and not the advertised 99% This is in part due to people forgetting to take their pill, but even those that take theirs every day at the same scheduled time can wind up pregnant

The most common error is thinking that the pill will work instantly The truth is that it can take at least seven consecutive days of use before it is considered effective, and if you mess up the ‘seven’ or ‘consecutive’ part, you may run into a little bit of trouble It’s not just the timing issue that can cause pill interference though, several common medications can too Antibiotics, migraine medicine, and even some dandruff-treating shampoos have the ability to screw up your birth control to the point where you’re no longer protected If in doubt, use condoms as well as taking the pill

Sources: Telegraph, Healthy Women 4 SEXUAL ORIENTATION Sex education lessons in schools routinely ignore LGBT relationships, or provide inaccurate and unhelpful information to young students One of the biggest myths taught about sexuality is that it’s a choice or can be cured, but this simply isn’t true Evidence is mounting to suggest that same-sex attraction is at least partly genetic and biologically based Homosexuality and Sexually Transmitted Infections are other areas typically skipped over

But it is important to know that lesbian and bisexual women are as much at risk of getting many STDs as heterosexual women Lesbians can transmit STDs to each other via skin-to-skin contact, mucosa contact, vaginal fluids, and menstrual blood They should take the same precautions as heterosexual women after each sexual partner, including taking an STI test Sources: The Guardian, The Independent, Live Science 3 PEEING AFTER SEX HELPS PREVENT UTIs Sexually transmitted infections top the list of taught topics in sex ed, but did you know that one common way women can get a urinary tract infection – a bacterial infection that can be painful and uncomfortable – is by not peeing after having sex? Anyone can get a UTI at any time, but women are 10 times more likely than men to get one, and one in five women will have a UTI at some point in their lifetime

But why are women more susceptible? Well, one of the reasons is sexual activity During sex, the urethra, which is the tube through which urine exits the body from the bladder, comes into contact with the bacteria from the genital area and anus, allowing them to enter the urethra, the bladder, and possibly eventually the kidneys, and result in an infection But don’t fear, one simple way to minimize bacteria buildup and reduce your risk of getting UTIs from sex, it to urinate after sex Sources: NHS, Everyday Health 2 FEMALE EJACULATION As most conversations about female ejaculation revolve around whether or not it is real, many of you might be surprised to learn that females can ejaculate

Well, that’s according to a study in New Scientist, which says female ejaculation comes in two forms The first is the more common form of female ejaculation, known as squirting The second, rarer form of female ejaculation is similar to male ejaculate

Both expel liquid in the same way: through the expulsion of fluid by the paraurethral ducts through and around the human female urethra, during or before an orgasm The difference, the study argues, is the substance expelled Apparently, squirting is essentially just fluid from the bladder, while the second form is made up of urine diluted with substances from the female prostate But the exact source and nature of the fluid continue to be a topic of debate among medical professionals Sources: The Independent, The Guardian, Women’s Health, New Scientist G-SPOT You may have heard your friends speaking about the term, but whether or not the G-spot exists is a controversial topic among sexologists

Those who do believe in its existence say that it is a small spot located on the front wall of the vagina, around 5 centimeters from the opening Some researchers believe it’s an extension of the nerves of the clitoris, while others believe it’s a gland related to lubrication In 2009 a study at King’s College London concluded that – if it exists – it is not a specific, scientifically provable entity The study was conducted among 900 pairs of identical twins, who filled out questionnaires about their sexual experiences It found that twins did not report a similar G-spot, suggesting it to be a psychological and subjective phenomenon

However, no one knows for certain whether it truly exists Sources: The Independent, BBC BONUS FACT CONSENT This one's a biggie and it means a lot more than simply “no means no” A lot of different things can happen in the bedroom, but consent must always be one of them Unfortunately, that important conversation is often left out of sex ed, to the point where educators from the likes of Cambridge University and several University of California campuses have recommended consent education Girls are never really taught that you can start having sex with someone because you wanted to have sex with them initially, but then change your mind and that's OK

Don’t carry on if you are feeling uncomfortable, or feel like you are obliged to simply because you initially said yes Sources: The Guardian, Campaign4consent

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